Last weekend I was on the phone with my gramma while I was killing time waiting for my homies.
"What are you doing?" She asks.
"I'm in Union Square waiting for my friends." I reply
"Wait you're alone? Is it dark? What are you wearing?" She questions nervously.
"Yes I'm alone but the park is packed, people are everywhere. Yes gramma it's dark, it's 10:30pm. I'm wearing jeans, and a tank top and some flats...what's it matter what I'm wearing?"
"Well are you wearing a brassiere?" She pries, "It's very important for a young woman to wear a brassiere so she doesn't end up with her tits around her belly button."
I'm gonna put my shit out there real quick and let all you strangers know that I have pretty small boobs and I go braless...brassiereless...a lot now. I didn't used to, I used to wear padded bras - attempting to fill things out and give me cleave - but in the last year or so I've started loving my small boobs for what they are and embracing the fashion possibilities that go with them. That night, coincidentally, I was not wearing a bra...though I told gramma I was so she didn't worry about my future droopy tits.
Since I couldn't find any on a Google search, I decided to write my own Guidelines for Going Braless. Oh, and there are a few exceptions:
* Supermodels and catwalk situations are not being taken into consideration. This is for regular girls who do regular things like go out to dinner, party, etc.
* As for work, I think a bra should always be worn.
* There are plenty of tanks and dresses these days with built-in bras, so this doesn't apply to those either. Think more along the lines of t-shirts, beaters, button ups, tube tops, halters, etc.
SHIRT COLOR/MATERIAL: If the nipple/areola color can be seen through the shirt, you are revealing too much. You are not a nursing mother who shows her boobs to everybody all the time. Allowing people to see the shape of those mammary glands is great, but the color is TMI. I love Rihanna and I love her style, but No to this:
BOOB SIZE: Let's put it this way, if you were to jump on a trampoline and your boobs fly up when you jump and make a loud SMACK against your chest when you land...OR if they're big enough that they make your back hurt when you don't wear one...OR if they go as far as your elbows when you have your arms at your side (like Drew Barrymore below)...I believe you need a bra. No to this:
THE FAKE FACTOR: This might be a slightly controversial statement, but I think fake boobs are great. I especially like them because they allow big breasted women to go braless - whenever...with whatever they feel like it. It's a beautiful thing, and who better to demonstrate than the boobiest wonder of the world, Pam Anderson. Yes to this:
OWNING IT: I experienced it the first few times of going braless...it's like dayum, I'm braless. It makes you more aware of your boobs than ever...and yes, of your nipples too. But once you get the...hang of it (pun intended!)...it can be fabulously liberating. Below are some ladies that work the bralessness. Yes to this:
So that's what I have so far. I suppose it's a list in progress...any other guidelines to add? Do's and Don'ts, Favs and Faux Pas?